One of the greatest advantages we have in life is the ability to change our mind. We often get stuck when we see a fork in the road. Which direction is right? We over analyze, we get caught up and then we don’t do. We just stand there hoping a sign will appear as to direct us where to go.
I’ve recently come to fully understand how disempowering this can be. Instead of wallowing in wonder and going over all the different outcomes, I’ve decided to act. In doing this I’ve found that I no longer wonder ‘what if’. By acting you eliminate a choice, by veering right you have decided to not go left.
The best part of this whole thing? You have the right to change your mind. Instead of standing around waiting for clear direction, your actions will dictate which direction is truly right. Once you’re doing something you quickly find out that’s not what you want to be doing. We often get caught up thinking “well, if I go right then I have to stay right so I better make the right choice” all while wondering ‘what if going left was the correct direction?”
Don’t torment yourself with all these thoughts! Just do it. Go right. Hate it? Turn around and go left. You have the right to change your mind. Better to do than to wait and have opportunities pass you by.
Do you ever stop and think about all the little experiences you’ve had along the way? And how all those little experiences make you who you are? I often wonder how. I wonder, how someone who has lived a seemingly similar life as I have – can turn out to be so different. I wonder how people are motivated. I wonder what drives people’s decisions. I wonder about everything. Some would say I’m crazy, or that I think too much or whatever. But, I guess, what I’m seeking is knowledge and truth. I want to know it all. So what drives you?
The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its
own reason for existing. One cannot help but be in awe when
one contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous
structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend
a little of this mystery every day. Never lose a holy curiosity.
There once was a hero, a man so brave and courageous. All who know him love him. This hero is not only strong, but he is wise. He sacrificed for his loved ones, overcame obstacles and still remains as an example of unconditional love and support. I often wonder, if he truly sees how he impacts people.
Like most heroes he is not always aware of his power. Unfortunately, again, like most heroes he has a fatal flaw. This flaw is completely within his grasp to control. How do you lead a horse to water and make it drink? How do you tell a hero to change when all this time he’s been invincible?
I just pray my hero makes a change so that his growing legacy will know him outside of a picture frame or book.
“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I— I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference.” – Robert Frost
People read this poem and think – Yes! Be original! Follow your heart, Break away from the crowd….blah blah blah.
If you read it, is becomes clear that the two roads are exactly the same. The point of the poem is that everyone wants to look back and think that their choices matter. This tells us that it doesn’t matter which path you take the inevitable will happen regardless. In essence, what will happen will happen.
Let’s think on that a minute.
If, what will happen – will happen regardless of what I do. Then what’s the point?
Personally, I agree. It doesn’t really matter what path you take. However, it does matter what we do while on the path. You can go left or you can go right and at the end it won’t matter – the destination is the same.
What does matter are the steps you take in reaching the destination.
Whose life did you impact along the way? How did you help others? Did you run them over or did you stop to help? Were you humble, thankful and gracious? Did you work too hard to notice the details?
Yes, the destination may end up the same regardless, but it’s the journey you have to reflect on once you’ve arrived.
Don’t stress about what happens next, or whether or not you took the right path. The path will lead you to where you need to go regardless. The journey however, will only be as great as you make it.
So focus on the now, the present, while making smart decisions and while enjoying the people around you. Look for opportunities along your path and don’t over think the choices you made.
I tend to be guilty in thinking of ‘what ‘s the next best thing.”
I have to remind myself that I’m living in ‘what was the next best thing.’ I have to remind myself to relax, to keep calm and trust that the path I’m on is the path that leads me to the destination I’ve envisioned.
After all once the zombies take over it won’t matter anyway. 🙂
One of my good friends, who in many ways motivates and inspires me, recently moved to NYC. In all her updates she includes a few of her favorite quotes. Without a doubt I tend to resonate with at least one of her shared quotes.
This week it was:
“But it’s no use going back to yesterday, because I was a different person then.” –Alice in Wonderland.
So often we get stuck on what we could have, what we should have done and what if we had done… I hate this kind of thinking. It’s bad not only for your mental health but it actually catapults you backwards.
Whether or not you think about it daily, you are in fact a different person today than you were yesterday, literally yesterday. Each day is new providing you with a start fresh to live the life you want. The past does one thing – hold you back. Yes, learn from mistakes but don’t hang onto past wounds, past decisions, or past failures. If you’re not failing you’re not trying and that may be the worst offensive of all.
What do you need to let go of today?
Be the exception; not the rule…I know, I know kinda cheezy. Yet, it’s soo true. Being told I’m an exception or even that I do something exceptionally well is by far one of the best compliments to receive. People, especially us in our twenties, think that we have to do certain things now while we can, while we are young. Like we have our whole lives to climb the ladder (which we don’t), we have to have all our ‘fun’ now and we can’t stray from the norm of what our peers are doing.
Personally, I hate doing what everyone else is doing. I don’t want to go through the motions of living a life or ending up living a life I didn’t aspire for. What does that look like? Well for me, it’s getting up on time or early, reading recommended books on personal development and strategic thinking, it’s taking the time to proofread before pressing send, it’s making my family my first priority…it’s a lot of little things. Yet, I do all of these things with intention and with the end in mind. If I look at the end first then I have more reason to act. If the end means nothing, then the pressure is off…(but I digress that’s a whole other topic)
I don’t want to set the standard of being and doing what everyone else is doing. I want to set a higher level of expectations for myself and for those around me. What do you do to set yourself apart? What areas of your life are you needing to re-examine in order to become more exceptional?
Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?
Hopefully, your answer inspires and motivates you.