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Do you lead your life?

Most people don’t lead their life, they accept their life. Most people don’t challenge their thinking. They don’t question the way things are. They don’t reexamine their thought processes.  They don’t ask why they think a certain way. Instead, they accept the answers given. They are okay with no progression no evolvement.

Don’t be most people.

Question yourself. Question others. Inspire curiosity. Don’t accept ‘no’ to your ‘yes’. Don’t tell God your plans ask Him. Then listen. Always seek forward movement and reflection. Constantly ask yourself, why. The answers should inspire more questions and the questions should inspire action.

Go ahead. I dare you. Ask yourself, why.

xoxo,

Blonde Chick

post inspired by A More Beautifull Question by Warren Berger.

 

 

“First, do no harm”

“First, do no harm” is used in the medical profession as a guiding principle for physicians that, whatever the situation, the patient’s well-being is the primary consideration. I understand this is used by physicians in a literal life or death situation, but can’t it also be used for ourselves in every aspect of our lives?

Shouldn’t we be more in tune to whether or not the decisions we make are going to impact us negatively or even permanently disable us from living the life we’ve imagined? This life I’m referring to is above and beyond a monetary or materialistic gain. It’s about living a life worth living, the life you were meant to live. If you’re like me then the worst, most crippling feeling in the world is to be a cog in someone else’s machine. As I make decisions I keep this very, real fear in mind in order to ensure I don’t lead down that path professionally and/or personally.

Ultimately when I say, ‘first, do no harm’ I’m suggesting that when you are creating your goals you must be mindful of every choice you make. Will it impact your family? Will it limit your ability to give back? Will it allow you to go on that vacation that you’re yearning for? Keep your priorities in order and make your decisions surrounding those. No judgement here as to what those are. Just consider what harm really means for your life and who could suffer as a result.

xoxo,

Blonde Chick

It’s All in the Details

My hubz and I really enjoy watching travel shows especially the Anthony Bourdain series. There was one episode we watched recently about Tokyo and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it! Traditionally, the Japanese are known for paying attention to detail to an extreme — just look at bonsai or exquisitely crafted sushi! This same obsession to detail can apply to several scenarios in our life. For me, I kept coming back to focusing on the details that shape goals. Culturally, the Japanese focus on one thing or one pursuit in order to reach as close to perfection as possible, beginning with the tiniest of details.

In our overworked, overloaded and distracted society just thinking about being able to focus on one thing seems impossible. Yet, but what would it mean for your life if you could? If you could focus on just one thing at a time? I’m the worst at doing this. My mind rushes from one thing to the another, from one idea to the next always seeking the latest best thing. Lately, however, my mind keeps going back to the same handful of ideas. So I’m challenging myself to focus on the one thing to in order to see what will develop. Instead of flip-flopping through my plethora of ideas – I need to focus on the details that will enable me to create my bigger picture goals.

I challenge you to also identify what one thing in your personal or professional life for you to focus on. Make it a goal to intentionally spend time focusing your energy and mind towards accomplishing that one thing. Even if it’s 20 minutes a day, start by identifying the details that form your goals. Then as you master each detail of one component you can add on from there. Slowly but surely, you will create what you set out to accomplish by focusing your efforts on the details that make up the bigger picture.

FOG

One of my mentors (and current boss) talked to us recently about living in the ‘FOG’. The FOG – standing for Feeling of Growth. When we are living in the FOG we are more engaged, happier and focused. I know for me this couldn’t be truer. Yet, when you feel as if you aren’t in the FOG, how do you get back to this feeling without having to start over?

Here are my three tips to getting in the FOG.

1. Reassess Goals: Are you headed in the right direction with where you’re currently at? Are you making strides to accomplish your goals? If not, identify what new benchmarks you can set for yourself and realign there. You also need to be okay with change! Be ready to pivot if you’re not in the right place whether mentally or physically.

2. Look Back: Take a step back to see where you’ve been to where you are now. If you’re not progressing forward comparatively then you need to identify why. You may also find that by looking back you can cut yourself a break! We often forget how far we’ve come. So do a 3-month review and if you’re moving the needle forward then keep focused on that. If you’re not, then go back to step to reassess goals.

3. Growth Hacks: Find one new way to improve your life a week. In doing so, you’ll be able continually, feel growth even in small increments.

Get the Funk Out

Ever wake up and automatically feel defeated? Like you’re not progressing in the way you want, as quickly as you want etc.. and suddenly you’re a victim of the success you’re trying to achieve? Clearly, writing from personal experience. I’ve felt this many times. I’ve woken up and just wanted to stay in bed and not deal.  I’ve even gone the point of over action in order to fix the problem I think I’ve identified.  So if you’re like me,  how do you get out of the funk and back to reality? Here are 4 things I force myself to do and sure enough it snaps me back into reality and out of my funk!

1. Take a shower.

Yes, go take a shower. Strip away the literal funk of the day and in doing so you are giving yourself a break, a minute or (20) to rinse away the stress. Taking a shower gives forces you to unplug and delve into your thoughts. Take the time to get clear. Once you step out the shower, you are starting into a clean, fresh mindset. Don’t let the insecurities and fear you have keep you in a funk you don’t deserve.

2. Show Up.

90% of success is showing up. If you want something you have to go after it, and in order to go after it you have to be present.  Even if you’re in a job, or a place that ultimately you don’t want to be you have to show up. You have to alway give your best. Every step, every choice you make along the way shapes your character. So on those days that you feel defeated and want to stay in bed – those are the days that you have to commit to your success and show up.

3. Call a friend.

Can’t get out of the funk on your own? Call a friend. Call your mentor. Call someone you can vent to, but make sure it’s someone who will also challenge you. Someone who can help you see the bigger picture. Sometimes just a 10-minute chat can help clear the fog out of your head and get you back on track. For me, it’s talking to my hubby on our goals or my sister. Doesn’t really matter but make sure you trust them and that they have no problem calling you out.

4. Make a list.

Get out a pen and a piece of paper to take stock of your life. From a professional standpoint, but also a personal one. You want to truly see what’s happening in your life so that you can see how each little decision is leading you towards accomplishing  your goals. In making this list, it causes you to reflect. If you’re not happy about your job then change it. Or maybe you’re happy with aspects of your current role, but not all of it. Creating a list of your reality can help you identify an action plan.

Ultimately, it’s about progressing forward. Don’t stop, don’t quit and always show up. Constantly moving towards a goal is key to not falling into a permanent funk.

xoxo,

Blonde Chick

Are you ready to say, ‘I do’ to your goals?

Saturday I had the honor of witnessing and participating in the wedding of my oldest brother. Weddings tend to do many things and stir up many emotions. The recurring feeling I had was how amazing commitment is. Seeing two join together in commitment all while knowing there will be challenges, changes and potentially bumpy roads ahead is an amazing scene to witness. It’s witnessing passion that transcends into action, a commitment to love no matter what.

In this day and age of instant gratification, we tend to forget that the things we most want in life require focus, sacrifice and commitment. If you aren’t committed to your own success, you simply aren’t committed to your goals. ‘He who says he can, and he who says he can’t are usually right.‘ Get committed to your dreams. Get committed to your goals. There is no room for ‘if…then’ when it comes to commitment. You have to have razor sharp focus and say, “I do,” to your career and life goals.

Just as joining your life to someone else’s in a commitment of honor and marriage is scary, exciting and full of unknowns – so are your career goals. So, what will you do this week to commit to your goals?

“Don’t give up trying to do what you really want to do. Where there is love & inspiration, I don’t think you can go wrong.” ~Ella Fitzgerald Commit to yourself today.